I know you’ve heard it before, but it’s worth repeating: anal sex is an incredible way to experience pleasure and intimacy. It’s also a great way to get the blood flowing and the mood going in the bedroom. But, there are a few things you need to know before you get started. And you should always talk to your partner about what they’re comfortable with.
Communicate with Your Partner
When it comes to sex and intimacy, communication is everything. It’s important that you and your partner talk openly and honestly about your sexual desires and fantasies. This will help you both understand each other’s needs and desires, which can make the experience that much better.
If you want to have sex with your partner, then you need to have a clear understanding of what you want from the experience. You need to talk about things like how fast you want to have sex, how intense you want it to be, and what kind of sex positions you want to try out.
Experiment with Yourself First
The anal sphincter muscle is so powerful that it can actually create suction by contracting and relaxing. This is why you can’t just sit there and think “I want to poop.” You have to work it to open it up.
They’re made of latex and silicone and they come in three different sizes. You can buy them from most sex toy stores and some online retailers. The good thing is that they come with instructions so you know how to use them.
Training is really like going to the ass gym. Step one in all things anal is lube. So you take a lubed-up plug (the kit’s smallest to start) and you put it up the butt until it meets resistance, normally about 2 inches. Then you wait 3 to 5 seconds and do the whole thing over again.
This is a very simple process that is easy to master. The only tools you will need are your fingers and a lubricant. Start by lubricating the anus with a little lube. Next, insert one finger into the rectum. Gently move the finger in and out of the anus, making sure you keep your finger clean. If you want, you can use a toy, but this isn’t necessary
As you get more comfortable with anal play, you can experiment with fingers (your own or your partners) while you’re preparing the booty for a great anal adventure. Bottom line, take your time. Rome didn’t do anal for just one day!
Clean Your Peach
You’re probably going to feel more comfortable about anal if your assh*le is fresh AF. 10/10 fresh is ideal for most assplay newbies. Absolutely no judgement to folks who like to partake with a medium fresh a hole. But if you want your butt to be squeaky, you have some options.
Step by step plan for enjoyable anal sex
Have a drink
But don’t drink too much, alcohol acts as a numbing agent and you want to be aware of all the signals the body is sending you. One or two drinks are enough to feel relaxed and ready for pleasure.
Talk about something you both enjoy and try to leave the daily worries behind.
Best way to relax body and mind, a must for pleasurable anal.
Don’t skip this step! The more excited you are the more welcoming your body will be to what will come next.
Lube it up!
Apply plenty of lube to the anus area, and, please, remember to avoid the numbing kind!
Massage the anus area
It will really help to relax the muscles for more pleasurable penetration. Massage lightly just outside the orifice with your hands or apply vibrations. Try some shallow penetration with your finger or a small anal toy, lightly massaging walls, to relax the sphincter further.
Go for it
When you see that your partner’s anus is relaxed and finger or a toy deliver pleasurable sensations, move on to penetrating your partner very slowly. Always pay attention to your partner’s body signals and keep the communication line open to avoid injuries and enjoy each other to the fullest.